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Twilight, sex and the tween

By Monica Brand, 22 December, 2009, 9 Comments

apple of tempation; cover art; Twilight by Stephenie Meyer

And now we come to what I believe is the most grievous problem with the Twilight series: the tween Twilight reader. The following is a real conversation I had with my 11 year old recently:

Susan: One of the girls in my class at church read Twilight.
Me: Hmmm. I see.
{Pause for dramatic affect}
Me: And how old is this girl?
Susan: I’m not sure. I think she’s ten.

Friends, Twilight is a YA novel. As in: Young Adult. Emphasis on the adult. The pre-teen reader is too young for the complex relationships, love triangles, make-out bedroom scenes, and Bella’s hot and heavy pursuit to bed her vampire boyfriend. Twilight is not for young kids.

I suspect my opinion is not the majority. Unfortunately, I think a lot of parents mistakenly believe that as long as their child is reading something, anything at all, then it’s better than nothing. We all want our kids to read. I get that. Remember how excited I was when Susan discovered the world of a page-turning novel? I love it that she loves to read.

But no way do I want her reading Twilight – or any other fiction with a heavy emphasis of sexual passion and pursuit – no matter how G-rated it is for a YA novel. And Twilight certainly is mild when it comes to those bedroom scenes. Twilight has nothing graphic that I can point to as evidence to say, “Ah-ha! See! Bella and Edward in bed with detailed description of fornication!!” No, there isn’t anything like that in the series.

And yet .  .  .

The problem isn’t so much what’s IN the book, it’s more who’s READING the book.

This is the problem with American culture; we expose our children too early to adult ideas, concepts they are not mature enough to handle. It’s in the music, television, movies, advertising, Internet, and books. Human anatomy and biology is fine, I’ve no problem with teaching our children how their bodies work, babies made. My concern is for the young reader being exposed to sexual desire, sexual passion. These are concepts our tweens need to hold off on until more mature.

Answer me this question:  Why the rush to end childhood innocence?

Think about what the tween – the 9, 10, 11 and 12 year olds – are reading, and thinking about, if they read the Twilight series.

Bella’s continuous attempts to bed Edward – what does that teach the tween about dating relationships and sex?

What about Bella’s poor self-esteem?

And I shudder at the tween reading these books without any parental input. Bella is a horrible example for an impressionable tween girl.

What say you? Do you agree with my conclusions or am I way off the mark? Let’s discuss.

Up next: Final Twilight thoughts

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Twilight discussion: Edward, the virtuous vampire

By Monica Brand, 12 December, 2009, 2 Comments

apple of tempation; cover art; Twilight by Stephenie Meyer

When I read popular novels, I love to find unexpected references to spiritual things. Twilight doesn’t disappoint.

In the Twilight series, beyond the teen romance and surviving the Bad Guy vampires, there is Edward, a vampire struggling to understand what will happen to him if he should die (that’s an IF because vampires are supposed to be immortal, unless destroyed, right?). Head Good Guy vampire, Carlisle, believes in redemption for their kind. Edward isn’t so sure, and spends a lot of time talking about heaven and hell with Bella. (That’s one of the reasons Edward doesn’t want Bella to become a vampire, remember? He doesn’t want her condemned to an eternity as a lost soul.)

Now THIS is a topic I can really sink my teeth into.

At first, Edward tells Bella no to her sexual advances because she is “fragile,” he’s afraid he might hurt her, but the further we get into the series, we come to learn that he is concerned with his own soul. He’s a murderer, a monster. He knows he’s done wrong, and now he’s trying to make amends with his non-human diet. Here is a vampire looking for any way to increase his odds of going to heaven. So no sex with Bella before they are wed.

Interesting, isn’t it?

What do you think?

Can Edward make it into heaven by his good intentions?

Can a vampire go to heaven or is his soul condemned forever?

Did you like the  spiritual aspect of the novels or do you only like the love story?

Let’s discuss.

Next: Twilight, sex and the pre-teen

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She can’t be much older than my four year old

By Monica Brand, 1 May, 2009, 3 Comments

Watch this video and you’ll see to whom I’m referring. Her life is my worst nightmare for my children, yet these kids are living this hell on earth. Please don’t look away.


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Stop sex trafficking: Las Vegas, NV – video of compiled news reports

By Monica Brand, 24 April, 2009, 4 Comments

Shocking numbers in this video. According to this news channel, the average age to be sold into prostitution is between 12 – 14. Wow. That’s wrong. And sad. These children deserve much better.


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Book tour: For Young Men Only (A guy’s guide to the alien gender) by Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice with Shaunti Feldhahn

By Monica Brand, 10 October, 2008, 7 Comments

Hey, do you know a young man who could use a little help understanding girls and what they think about boys, dating and sex? Maybe you are the parent of a teen boy and you wish you could help him navigate a girl’s world?

For Young Men Only by Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice is just the nifty little handbook you are looking for. (And it’s the perfect size for a Christmas stocking).

From the backcover:

Just for guys… the inside scoop on girls from girls themselves.

Okay, the authors aren’t girls. But to bring you the facts they survived more than 1,000 of them. Every teen buy wants to know how girls are wired, what they want, and how they really think…

or at least how to talk to a girl without feeling like an idiot. Here’s your chance to find out.

Check out some of the chapters:

  • Abercrombie Boy vs. Our Hero, Average Joe (Why ordinary guys have a real chance with great girls)
  • Why Good Girls Like Bad Boys (Understanding a girl’s greatest secret fear – and what you can do about it)
  • No Dropped Calls (How to talk and listen to a girl without looking like an idiot)
  • What it Means to Score (The truth about girls, guys, and sex)

About the authors:

Jeff Feldhahn is an attorney and the owner of the tech company, World2One. With his wife, Shaunti, he wrote the best selling For Men Only.

Eric Rice is the owner/director/producer of 44 Films. Eric lives in Atlanta area with his wife, Lisa, and their four teenage children.

Shaunti Feldhahn is a nationally syndicated newspaper columnist, public speaker, and best-selling author whose books include For Women Only, For Young Women Only (with Lisa Rice) and For Parents Only.

Wanna win a copy for your boy? I have two copies to give away. Even if you don’t have a teen boy now, you may want to get your hands on this book, because today’s toddler will grow up to tomorrow’s teen, pimples and whiskers and all. I know I’m going to tuck my copy away for when my boys need it.

Enter the contest by leaving a comment.

Want an extra entry? Promote this giveaway on your blog, and send me the link. For another chance to win, give this a shout out on Twitter. Don’t forget to email me the tweet.

That’s it. Contest closes next Friday, October 17.

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This goes nicely with my post about The Road of Lost Innocence

By Monica Brand, 21 September, 2008, 2 Comments

Call + Response, a movie addressing the human sex slavery problem, is coming out soon. It’s not going to be showing any where near my little Jersey town, but if you live in a large city, it may be available to you. I encourage you to check it out. (I hope I can get it on DVD… )

HT: Tall Skinny Kiwi

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